In Need of Psychological Plumbing - I'm Blocked!

By Sabrina Holmes

How often do you feel like you’re doing everything you can in a particular area of your life and yet you don’t seem to have any ‘wins’? You feel like knocking your head against a wall don’t you? I know I do! Even if you’re the kind of person who is committed to constant personal growth and change, those days come. Sometimes I feel like I know so much about something there can’t possibly be a reason for not achieving exactly what I want... and yet I don’t... it’s inconceivable! I’ve found myself yelling, crying, punching, getting depressed and watching TV and sometimes even lashing out at the spiritual world because of the senselessness of it all!

What’s the block? What causes the flow of energy to literally block up? Well... let me see if I can shed some light. I’m a big believer in alignment within oneself. I believe that a part of our journey here is to find that sense of peace that comes with aligning the body, mind and soul and it’s an ongoing journey that doesn’t seem to have it’s destination in one singular lifetime. Sometimes our blockages are unconscious which puts us out of alignment because we’re not able to see them so clearly, short of getting yourself a coach (which I can HIGHLY recommend), let me share with you one of my favourite self coaching tools – the power of an open ended question. Whenever I’m having these moments of questioning and frustration that’s when I sit down with my journal and get very honest with myself. I begin to explore my thoughts on whatever the topic of my frustration is and I get very confronting with myself about what I’m believing, what I’m telling myself and then I ask the big one: “Am I really doing EVERYTHING I can or can I do more, can I do something different?”. Inevitably the answer is no, I’m not doing EVERYTHING I can and, yes I can do more. By asking myself the right question, my unconscious mind goes searching for the answers I need.

For example, just this week I was wondering why my phone wasn’t running hot with new business and I started getting down on myself, I started pushing blame outward until I woke up to my pointless behaviour and decided to look for a solution instead. I picked up my journal and simply wrote this question: “What more can I do, specifically, to generate new business?” and the pen started flowing. I made a list of six things I knew I should be doing but hadn’t for some time, I’d simply gotten sidetracked, they’d dropped off my radar. They were simple things that I put back into my schedule immediately. I guess it’s a little bit of a self-generated wake up call. I think these are the best kind because if you don’t do it... believe me the Universe will find a way to do it for you and usually it’s not as gentle as you are on yourself. Step up and live consciously.

Us & Them - Why You Should Always Dare to Dream

I remember as a child looking at the big houses and shiny, new cars in the street thinking “Wow! Those people are so lucky!”. As I grew up, I observed how much it seemed so normal to separate “us” – the middle class, from “them” – the wealthy. It never really occurred to me as a teenager to question this, but as an adult chasing my big, grandiose dreams, I have found myself eternally perplexed by the self separation that seems to happen amongst humans.

Why do so many people seem to ‘wish’ for the abundance of wealth that life offers, yet never truly believe that it’s in any way possible for them? My question is… Why not? The only way that wealth is ever going to happen is to first believe it is possible. The crazy thing is, it is SO MUCH MORE POSSIBLE than most people ever really know!!

I came from a middle class family, and we often (I mean really often!) struggled with money, but we always kept the dream alive. My father always had an entrepreneurial spirit and started many new business ventures, even though, unfortunately, the financial jackpot always eluded us. We had a better kind of wealth though – love and encouragement. You see, our parents always encouraged my sister and I with strong words like “You can be anything you want to be, if you want it bad enough”.

So now, at 31, I own a multi-million dollar property portfolio, I quit my job several years ago for a life of freedom, I’ve married the man of my dreams, I live abroad and I frequently travel the world. So what’s the difference between me and the other middle class people who didn’t realize their dreams? Only a belief that it was possible.

For instance, I would walk into a store and try on the most expensive pair of shoes I could find, even though I knew I didn’t have the money to buy them. I wanted to be comfortable with that kind of wealth, and I was also very aware of keeping my language, internal and external, positive and aligned with my dreams. Instead of looking at the shoes and immediately saying “I can’t afford those!”, I would say “I choose not to buy them, today”. Being wealthy starts with feeling wealthy. Consider all the people who didn’t feel wealthy and won the lottery… most of them squandered it all away, because even though they really wanted it, they never really felt worthy of having it.

So take the time to reflect on what you’re thinking, feeling and saying (both to yourself and out loud), and decide if it’s aligned with your goals and dreams. If not, consider finding a new approach… and be sure remove the phrase “I can’t afford it” from your vocabulary!

As for me, I’ve still got a long way to go, and I never want to stop growing and striving for more, (does that journey ever stop?), but these days I can see a $40 Million dollar mansion, or 180 ft Super yacht and comfortably say “that’s for me”, and know for sure that it is.